Local writer Leigh Spencer has published an autobiographical eBook on her personal journey following the end of a 27-year marriage.
Do You Mind if I Buy Myself Some New Underwear is an eBook of self-discovery for Leigh, as she explores and recalls her life with her late husband. Leigh was married for 27 years before her husband passed away from hypertensive heart disease, it wasn’t until after he passed that Leigh began to have strange thoughts on her marriage. She, and her two sons realised that she had been a victim of emotional abuse throughout her relationship.
She said: “After he died, I started having some very strange thoughts about my marriage, so strange I thought I was imagining them. Unfortunately, I wasn’t as both my sons had witnessed their father’s behaviour towards me while he was subjecting to them to emotional abuse as well, but like me they didn’t realise what he was doing was abuse.
“My writing was the catalyst in facing the truth. Interestingly I wrote it in the third person. It was easier to see my life through someone else’s eyes.”
“He inflicted mental, financial (prevented me from working from the time I became pregnant with my first son), isolated me from family and friends thereby preventing me from having a support network and tracked my movements”
Do you mind if I buy myself some new underwear: A transatlantic tale of emotional abuse, discovery and recovery is available to download from Amazon.
A sensitive subject
Emotional abuse can come in many forms, but it is a type of abuse that involves the continual emotional mistreatment of an individual. Although Leigh’s husband never physically harmed her or her children, emotional abuse can be a form of control, manipulation, humiliation, criticization, threats and more.
If you feel you could be exposed to of any of the above, call the Freephone 24hr National Domestic Violence number available on 0808 2000 247 or the police if you’re in immediate danger.